Adult Children In America

Our Advice Guru, Liz Pryor goes on another rant, where she solves the worlds problems, one topic at a time. This time, it’s all about dealing with adult children or in some cases, what she calls ‘Adult Toddlers’

Add your comments, questions, ideas, theories, excuses and stories on dealing with adult children today, and Liz will be back with a follow-up video with helpful solutions.

 

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WHAT AM I DOING HERE, ANYHOW?

A 67-Year-Old Woman’s Year in Italy…

Our resident expert on Family Law, Attorney Paula Noe, took her son’s good advice. Her full story published in Huffington Post today.

“You can do that, Mom!”
“What are you talking about?”, said I, in utter ignorance…….
“You can do anything you want, Mom.”, he said, generously (I like to think he heard me telling him that over the years!).
“Why don’t you take a year off and live somewhere else?”
Thus, my journey began….”

Read her article at the Huffington Post here.

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Confessions of A Middle-Aged Hippie

You’ve heard her discuss Love, Life and World Domination Summits. Now Beverley Golden has a newly released memoir, ‘Confessions of a Middle-Aged Hippie: Observations of Life on earth and Other Cosmic Meandering’. An honest, inspiring and ultimately hilarious storyteller, Golden hits a variety of cultural hot buttons, real stories that come rushing off the page as an avalanche of resonating insight. A great read, fun throughout and always inspiring.

See our resources page for more information.

Listen to my conversation with Beverley on ’The Four Faces of Intimacy’ here.

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End Of Life Issues

Woody Allen once said, “I’m not afraid of death, I just don’t want to be there when it happens.”

Have you ever noticed how death and dying is something that happens to other people? Many of us have conditioned ourselves to deal with the reality by not dealing with it at all… and avoid the subject entirely.

I know, I know. I’d rather not talk about it either. But I do know that there is a better way, which is why I invited Anne Grete Mazziotta to join our roster of experts.

Anne Grete is a professional coach who specializes in applying coaching to end of life issues in order to ease the suffering for those who are ill and the family members who are caring for them. Used wisely, knowledge and skills can lead to actions that help people navigate their lives, particularly in difficult circumstances. 

To learn more about Anne Grete Mazziotta go to our Resources|Services page.

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CHANGE & LEADERSHIP

I asked one of my favorite experts, Leigh Marz, to tell me about a successful experience working with a client on her speciality ‘Welcoming Change & Leadership’. Then we both realized that, since she had advised me in the past, that client could be me. Here is Leigh’s blog post:

“When Deb called and said, ‘I’m trying something I’ve never tried before, a Live Salon. I don’t know if it’s EVER been done before…at least not the way I imagine it!’ – every cell in my body leapt in celebration.

In those moments, I can FEEL the crackle of possibility. Without hesitation, I did what I often do when I am in the divine presence of creativity and bravery; I offered to be her thought partner.

Together we ran through scenarios—exploring best case, worst case, and ‘beyond-your-wildest-dreams’ case scenarios. In that process we were able to uncover what was at the core of Deb’s vision, the values she most wanted expressed, and her ‘stake’ as a leader — all of which would serve as her compass.

To be clear, Deb did all the heavy lifting. I was merely a thought partner (ok, and cheerleader). Deb did a stellar job building a structure that was robust yet agile — ideal for creating safety, trust and discovery. After the pilot event, we unpacked all the details, piece by piece, to really reap the learning—to recognize what isn’t working and invite more of what is…”

Leigh was an outstanding thought partner and helped me clear out the clutter to focus on my most important core values and meaningful goals.

To learn more how you can work with Leigh go to our ‘Resource – Services’ page.

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“Dao of Debby & Tao of Talbot”

On our radio show we have short feature segments, between guest interviews and after the news break, where Deb & Wes have some fun and mix it up.

Some titles are ‘Isn’t It Re-mockable’, where we mock ridiculous, every day happenings, or ‘A Dive A Day with Debby’ where Deb shares a favorite cheap and cheerful new dive or Wes’ Hash Safari, his never ending quest for the best Hash (as in corned beef hash).

Listen here to this week’s featured segment, ‘The Dao of Debby & The Tao of Talbot,’ our personal mantras and words to live by…where a little ‘wisdom’ goes a loooooooog way!

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Doctor Burnout and Mindfulness

Another tipping point – When the medical community not only recognizes meditation as science, AND sees results in using ‘mindfulness training courses’ to ease Medical Doctor Burnout.

A simple technique we can all use, sited in todays 5th most shared NYTimes article, ‘Easing Doctor Burnout with Mindfulness’.

The “two feet one breath” technique in which a doctor, just before entering an exam room, stands in front of the door and concentrates on breathing and the feeling of his or her feet on the ground as a way to help focus on the moment.

Listen here to Deb’s conversation with Priscilla Warner, author of ‘Learning To Breathe – My Year Long Quest to Bring Calm to My Life’:

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YOUR BEST AT EVERY AGE

Beverley Hills Dermatologist, Dr. Ava Shamban is known for understanding the relationship between appearance and self-esteem. Dr. Ava discusses a wide range of skin treatments, cosmetic or repairative, and why no one should ever suffer from acne again. She helps her patients put their best face forward to look and feel their best, inside and out.

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VISUAL THERAPY

Joe Lupo, co-founder of Visual Therapy, a New York based fashion consulting firm, joins our roster of select experts. Offering private styling, Joe works with a client’s already unique style personality – merging fashion, psychology and spirit to bring clarity to the closet, enabling people to form a concise and confident coordination of their external image and internal identity. Joe and team from Visual Therapy, are frequently featured in Elle, Vogue, InStyle and Harper’s Bazaar among other top publications, and made regular appearances on ‘The Oprah Winfrey Show’.

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Reading Signs

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It’s clear I’ve become a person who is looking for signs. In clouds or numbers, pools and puddles, the time on the clock or dates aligning. Are they messages or signs? Synchronicity, or superstition? Even if it is, each time it happens, my heart is lifted and I’m reminded of a divine connection way bigger than me. Today, I remember, and take these picture as signs of strength and resilience. That all is well, and peace will prevail. And ever hopeful.

 

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HAPPINESS – A PERSONAL CHOICE

“We choose everything we do, including the misery we feel. Other people can neither make us miserable nor make us happy.” - Psychiatrist, author  Dr. William Glasser.

Dr. William Glasser published more than two dozen books promoting his view that mental health is mostly a matter of personal choice, a precept that found a vast popular audience and influenced teachers, drug counselors and personal therapists, died on Aug. 23.

Back in 1953, he was thrown off the psychiatric residency staff in for his belief that we are not victims of our circumstances. Dr. Glasser asked,  ‘What are you going to do about your life, beginning today?’

Core Principles:

■ That the only person one controls in the world is oneself.

■ That the effort to change others is doomed and, worse, is the actual cause of most emotional problems.

■ That to meet the most profound human need — “to love and be loved,” as Dr. Glasser put it — people must repair strained relations with their family, friends and co-workers by adjusting the one variable within their control: their own behavior.

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‘Why You Need To Brag More (And How To Do It)’

By Dr. Peggy Drexler
“Think hard: When’s the last time you took credit—really took credit—for a job well done? Without giving props to others, shying away from praise, or otherwise shifting the recognition to anyone but yourself? A May 2013 study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that women who work with men are far less likely to take credit for their work than those who collaborate with other women. Instead, women in mixed-gender work teams tend to give more credit than is necessary—or even true—to their male colleagues. This is habitual: Instead of talking about themselves in an honest way, women give away the credit, talking about the great team they had, the collaborative efforts involved, the talents of someone, anyone, else. In some instances, women will even point to the negative aspects of themselves or their achievements instead of simply saying ‘thank you’ or otherwise owning potential praise. Sound familiar?” See more…

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Candid Confessions from Single Men

Dating and wondering why he didn’t call you back? Matchmaker, expert, guest Rachel Greenwald interviewed 1000 single men, after the first date. Here’s just one of her helpful insight…

Never send a “Thank You” email after a date.
Men told me that while they appreciate the “Thank You Email” after a date, it ultimately causes them to lose interest in a woman because men like the chase. They told me that when they receive your email (or text) the morning after a date, they do NOT think, “Oh,what good manners she has to thank me again!” Rather, they think it really means you like them. It’s more deflating than endearing because, if he liked you too, he wanted to contact you first and pursue you.

Thank him graciously at the end of the date, but don’t steal his thunder the next day. And if you don’t hear from him at all? He’s just not that into you, of course. He’s a big boy and knows how to contact you if he wants to see you again. Your email isn’t subtle when sent under the pretext of a “thank you.”

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What Is A Naturopath?

When you go to a medical doctor you can be fairly certain you’ll get medicine. Go to a surgeon, you’re likely to be prescribed surgery. And on it goes.

A Naturopath brings ancient and modern technologies together with the emphasis on prevention and getting to the root cause. Often called a modern day medicine man, the Naturopath takes a holistic approach combining mind|body|spirit healing of all illnesses.

Listen to my conversation with Dr. Julian Neil, a Naturopath and Spiritual Psychologist practicing in Los Angeles. His motto – To Educate. Not Medicate. He is known for changing the lives of many, including Bill Maher and Larry David.

“I have the greatest regard for Dr. Neil both personally and professionally. It’s not an exaggeration to say that he’s changed my life. I no longer think I’m on the verge of death and have ceased worrying about my health. Of course having said that, I probably just put a terrible hex on myself and won’t last the week.”- Larry David; Comedian, Creator of “Seinfeld” & “Curb Your Enthusiasm”

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Conversation with Diane English

This week I had the privilege of doing a LIVE interview with Diane English at the ‘Lunch with a View’ Lecture Series at the Edgartown Yacht Club on Martha’s Vineyard.

Diane is a film director, screenwriter and a multiple EMMY winning show runner and producer, best known for creating the sitcom Murphy Brown. Diane talks about her road to Hollywood, as one of the few women show runners, and changing trends. Below is a excerpt from a past show.

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Four Faces of Intimacy

Traveling correspondent, Huff Post contributor and author of soon to be released book ‘Confessions of a Middle-Aged Hippie’, Beverley Golden weighs in on Intimacy and what it means to you and me.

‘It started with what seemed like a simple question I asked myself. That question, not surprisingly for anyone who knows me, led to a series of additional questions. Without questions it isn’t possible to uncover meaningful answers. Somehow, I wasn’t getting clear answers for myself, so I started asking people I came in contact with the same questions. The results were fascinating to me and I wanted to explore the topic more fully. The basic question: “What does intimacy mean to you?” see more…

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Hooking Up

New rules. Another tipping point.

‘Sex On Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too’ by Kate Taylor, NY Times
‘It is by now pretty well understood that traditional dating in college has mostly gone the way of the landline, replaced by “hooking up”, an ambiguous term that can signify anything from making out to oral sex to intercourse, without the emotional entanglement of a relationship.’

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Type A and On The Run?

Multi-tasking our way to madness…

‘What would you ever have done without a “smart phone” to keep you moving and up-to-the-minute on emails? And as much as you complain about your hectic schedule and having no time for yourself, is it possible that you’d have it no other way?’ – Roy Nelson, Founder of The Nelson Center for Emotional Healing | see more… Are you on the go or on the run?

 

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Why We Can’t Give Up On Meditation

Forty years ago, Transcendental Meditation was a fad. Today it’s science. I recently attended the screening of the documentary: Meditation Creativity Peace featuring film director David Lynch.

In the film he speaks on the subjects he’s most passionate about: Transcendental Meditation and scientifically proven stress-reducing programs using a holistic approach that promote creativity, happiness and success.

Add media tycoon Rupert Murdoch to the list of TM devotees like Oprah and Candy Crowley. Whatever your practice – yoga, mindful walking meditation, chanting (still want to try that one), What do we have to lose, 30 minutes a day?

Personal note: After many years trying to stop drop and meditate I recently used both a 10 day FREE HEADSPACE phone app trial and Marianne Williamson’s Morning Evening Meditation audio book. Results are notable. More calm, less angst, and open to the possibilities.

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ADVICE GURU

Liz Pryor – ABC’s Good Morning America’s Life Advice Expert, author, speaker, parenting columnist. As a current voice for American women in a changing culture, Liz brings candid ideas for navigating life in today’s world with advice on topics of marriage, parenting, life after divorce,teenagers, and relationships. My go to expert for especially stickie situations.

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Into The Deep

‘I am like a mermaid…I have no fear of great depths and a great fear of shallow living…’ – Anais Nin

I have been dreaming on this for a life time and this new platform is the result of those dreams. To find a community of wonderful people who know a lot more than I do, on topics that I want to know a lot more about.

The radio show was another step on the path: a collection of people I have researched, interviewed, had lunch and become friends with… and have personally hired, or would. They are my go to experts. They may not be the biggest names or celebrity gurus but, in my not so humble opinion, they are the best at what they do.

I want to introduce you to each other, sharing the wisdom of our expert’s latest blogs, ideas and conversations. A place where you can meet, talk and work with the best and brightest in their field on your specific interests and goals. Person to person.

It’s one thing to sit and listen to someone give advice for 20 minutes. It’s another, to do something about it. Real talk. Real Life. Real action.

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Rules of Engagement

Marriage rates are at a historic low, and declining. Gay marriage and acceptance of the LGBT lifestyle has taken a grand leap in just a few years. Open marriage discussions are becoming main stream on Main Street.

Would we have ever believed, even 5 years ago, that we’d see this quantifiable shift – the tipping point of marriage and ‘traditional values’ as we’ve known them.

What if your daughter (or son) in a committed ‘traditional’ relationship choses not to be married. At least right now. And she decides to have children? My guess, we will be thinking about it from a new and more open perspective.

More on Marriage Rate Decline,  Open Relationships, Gay Marriage & Lifestyle

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The Secret to Dealing With Difficult People

“How people treat you is their Karma… How you react is yours. It might be hard to remember in the moment, but if you do it will guide you to the right and most rewarding action.” – anonymous

Read the full article at:

The Secret to Dealing With Difficult People‘ – Tony Schwartz, Harvard Business Review

 

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It’s Only A Number

And by that I mean your age…that pesky double digit which indicates how ‘old’ you are.

But how old do you feel?

My new friend Rhoda is going on 90. I’m sure she has days when she feels 190, but her quick wit, twinkle in her eye, and rye sense of humor have her somewhere around thirty-something. Rhoda is who I like to hang out with. Whatever her age.

When someone asks me my age I actually have to think for a minute because I often forget. Then, I tell them and add – it’s only a number.

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Why Feeling Like An Impostor is Good For You

SHRINK FOR ENTREPRENEUR, Peter Shallard has a very interesting take on Impostor Syndrome.

“It’s the secret whispered behind the hands of entrepreneurs who are the best of friends. Just writing about this practically feels like a betrayal. Everyone is afraid of being found out.

Shhh! Don’t utter the truth: That you tricked your way into success and you don’t really know what you’re doing.That you’re just a tall child holding a beer.” …more

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Why There Are More Walk Away Moms

On CNN this week, Dr. Peggy Drexler discusses “Why There Are More Walk Away Moms”: “Eleven years ago, Brenda Heist dropped off her young kids at school — and never returned. Not to pick them up later, and not to their Pennsylvania home. The family thought she was dead. That something terrible had happened to her. What else could explain the sudden disappearance of a woman her daughter, then 8, later described as a “great” mom?” She hadn’t been kidnapped or killed. She had, she said, been stressed.”

View the CNN article                                                Listen to the radio show segment >>

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LOVE FOR NO REASON

Marci Shimoff, NY Times #1 best-selling author of “Love for No Reason” and “Happy For No Reason”; also co-authored “Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul”, the biggest self-help book phenomenon in history, not to mention a featured teacher in the film sensation, The Secret. We talk about the fast track to feeling more love, inner ease, and compassion.

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Walking Meditation

“Walking is a great way to integrate mindfulness into your everyday life and has been practiced as a meditative technique for thousands of years. But in everyday life, walking is usually an established and habituated action that requires very little concentration. Because of this, it’s almost become autonomous: It’s easy to slip into a semi-conscious state of walking, where the legs are moving but the mind is thinking about something different altogether. Whatever it is that causes the mind to wander off, it’s a movement away from the present moment, away from the direct experience of life. It can sometimes feel as though we’re so busy remembering, planning and analyzing life that we forget to experience life –- as it actually is, rather than how we think it should be. Con’t” – HEADSPACE

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